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    <subtitle>fabulous; remarkably so. </subtitle>
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        <title>A visual representation of me, thanks to Jennifer at the Word Cellar</title>
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        <published>2008-08-20T08:21:00-07:00</published>
        <updated>2008-08-20T08:59:29-07:00</updated>
        <summary>I am so thankful to Jennifer, at the Word Cellar, who came up with this fun little exercise... Use Flickr to answer a series of questions, then put together this mosaic as a visual representation of yourself. Her post explains...</summary>
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            <name>caroline donahue</name>
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<p>I am so thankful to Jennifer, at the Word Cellar, who came up with this fun little exercise... Use Flickr to answer a series of questions, then put together this mosaic as a visual representation of yourself. <a href="http://thewordcellar.blogspot.com/2008/08/photos-of-meme.html">Her post explains how to do it</a>... I love the result as well as the fact that I now know that visually, she and I share a few traits...

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<p>Credit where credit is due:</p>

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1. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/babeffe/365712857/">la santa bacia tutti [e uno]</a>, 2. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/holiday_jenny/592736619/">My creation for the handmade Tiara/Crown swap (for Holly)</a>, 3. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/-oliviabee-/2683093060/">A different kind of garden.</a>, 4. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/mumbleyjoe/1273929104/">Persistence</a>, 5. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/superchouette/2581362263/">cate</a>, 6. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/moaan/238053059/">#02 in the gathering dusk</a>, 7. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/jodymiller/268648957/">Ullswater barn</a>, 8. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/drp/26256773/">Adam And Eve On A Raft, And Wreck 'Em</a>, 9. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/sergei24/1645592932/">The Photographer</a>, 10. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/haggischick/2572982367/">Where's that passport gone?</a>, 11. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/vanka/497557966/">Bali Ha'i</a>, 12. <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/ianbroyles/297007364/">caro's card on candice's keyboard</a></p></div>
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    <entry>
        <title>Emptying out.</title>
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        <published>2008-08-19T21:23:46-07:00</published>
        <updated>2008-08-19T21:24:04-07:00</updated>
        <summary>Lately, it feels like I am being squeezed. There is so much pressure in the world around me that I feel wrung out. Househunting in Los Angeles is a different animal than it was in San Francisco. There are fewer...</summary>
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            <name>caroline donahue</name>
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        <category scheme="http://sixapart.com/ns/types#tag" term="coaching" />
        <category scheme="http://sixapart.com/ns/types#tag" term="empty" />
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<div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p><a onclick="window.open(this.href, '_blank', 'width=500,height=333,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0'); return false" href="http://remabulous.typepad.com/.shared/image.html?/photos/uncategorized/2008/08/19/106694427_6af5e2744c.jpg"><img height="166" width="250" border="0" src="http://remabulous.typepad.com/remabulous/images/2008/08/19/106694427_6af5e2744c.jpg" title="106694427_6af5e2744c" alt="106694427_6af5e2744c" style="margin: 0px 5px 5px 0px; float: left;" /></a>Lately, it feels like I am being squeezed. There is so much pressure in the world around me that I feel wrung out. Househunting in Los Angeles is a different animal than it was in San Francisco. There are fewer beauties to choose from, and therefore a greater sense of loss when a magical place is given away, especially when right now I am dying for nothing more than to feel at home.</p>

<p>I often feel lots of pressure as a coach to have it all together. To be in balance and have it all figured out. But I am so far from being at that point. I have moments when I am calm and clear, but there haven't been many of those moments lately. What I am realizing is that my work makes me open to take on huge loads: loss, illness in myself and others, stress, and fear about starting and running a business. If I didn't go through all of this, then I would not be able to relate very well to others in difficulty. I would only be able to give what a friend calls "cardboard answers." I am so grateful that the conversations I have for a living are real and deep and wide. Speaking with clients about their lives and hopes makes it all feel worth it. A client going through a breakup or one who is scared about making enough money- I know how this feels, and I can speak from inside the experience. </p>

<p>It's amazing the gratitude I can fit inside this one body. I have to keep emptying myself out with this squeezed by the world feeling. I need to make room for something more hopeful and grateful. It hit me hard today, while talking to a client. How lucky I feel to have this life, even if it isn't all sorted out yet, and even if I got drunk last night and told the same story several times over. Even if I am far from perfect and much more wobbly than balanced. And even if I still cry these days. A lot. </p>

<p>image: 'empty' by <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/atc/106694427/">atconc</a> via flickr.</p></div>
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    <entry>
        <title>Wabi-Sabi life transitions.</title>
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        <published>2008-08-17T11:26:35-07:00</published>
        <updated>2008-08-17T11:26:53-07:00</updated>
        <summary>Am currently reading Leonard Koren's book: Wabi- Sabi for Artists, Designers, Poets &amp; Philosophers. It had been sitting on the shelf in my inspiration bookcase for a few months, when a customer came into Book Soup yesterday and requested it....</summary>
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            <name>caroline donahue</name>
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<div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p><a onclick="window.open(this.href, '_blank', 'width=500,height=433,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0'); return false" href="http://remabulous.typepad.com/.shared/image.html?/photos/uncategorized/2008/08/17/370525901_e003441123.jpg"><img height="216" width="250" border="0" src="http://remabulous.typepad.com/remabulous/images/2008/08/17/370525901_e003441123.jpg" title="370525901_e003441123" alt="370525901_e003441123" style="margin: 0px 0px 5px 5px; float: right;" /></a>Am currently reading Leonard Koren's book: <a href="http://astore.amazon.com/remabulous-20/detail/1880656124/105-5470179-6481202">Wabi- Sabi for Artists, Designers, Poets &amp; Philosophers</a>. It had been sitting on the shelf in my inspiration bookcase for a few months, when a customer came into Book Soup yesterday and requested it. He was so enthusiastic to know that I had heard of it that I knew it was time to read it.</p>

<p>It is a simple quick read, and one that speaks directly to my life at the moment as well as the lives of those around me. So many people I know in Los Angeles and elsewhere seem to be at points of transition. And not easy transition, but painful and wrenching transition, either because of illness, sudden car accidents, break-ups, career changes, and many others. In the arena of there being three legs to the life stool (love and friendship, home, and work), it seems many of us are afraid our stools aren't standing up well enough to hold us. </p>

<p>This book is a beautiful example of how to trust these moments and just keep going... I'll share bits through the time I read it, because I think it is worth writing about more than once. </p>

<p>image: <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/pictoscribe/370525901/">pictoscribe</a> via flickr.</p><blockquote><p>"How do we feel about what we know?</p>

<p>Acceptance of the inevitable: Wabi-sabi is an appreciation of the evanescence of life. The luxuriant tree of summer is now only withered branches under a winter sky. All that remains of a splendid mansion is a crumbled foundation overgrown with weeds and moss. Wabi-sabi images force us to contemplate our own mortality, and they evoke an existential loneliness and tender sadness. They also stir a mingled bittersweet comfort, since we know all existence shares the same fate."</p>

<p>-from Wabi-Sabi.</p></blockquote><p>There is some comfort in at least feeling these periods of loss and transition are mirrored by nature. it is hard to argue with the order of nature and the fits of "this shouldn't be happening to me" that sometimes come up as I am frustrated and, in many ways, in shock that my life looks so different now than it did a month ago, are really just as futile as getting angry that summer is turning into fall. </p>

<p>I know that ultimately all the changes that are occuring for me and those around me will make some kind of sense to us. I am being polished pretty roughly at the moment, like the story of the river stone, but at the same time I would be foolish to ignore the possibilities that are coming through because of this. The fact that my being so exposed let me speak easily to a friend I'd argued with a year and a half ago last night. And that I am able to reach out to so many people who have been more than simply kind in offering to be of support.</p>

<p>And because, somewhere in the middle of this, I might get to move into a magical little home that I know is one I have dreamed of for a long time. So that leg of the stool will get held up. I had thought this would happen differently. There was a big part of me that hoped for a particlarl storyline. But if i know anything at this point in my life, it is that the storyline that is happening is usually far more valid than the one I keep trying to convince myself is true. </p>

<p>Cross your fingers for me, and there will be an amazing housewarming before too long. Thank you and thank you again to all of you for putting up with m during this period of time. I have never felt so unpredcitable, even to myself. I am so grateful you have been kind enough to treat me like it's all normal. </p></div>
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        <title>My animal familiar</title>
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        <published>2008-08-15T21:15:00-07:00</published>
        <updated>2008-08-16T21:15:36-07:00</updated>
        <summary>This is pretty much the best animal equivalent I can offer of my emotional state recently. Amazing how you can run along and then suddenly life startles you into a faint. Ay carumba. Happy friday...</summary>
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            <name>caroline donahue</name>
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This is pretty much the best animal equivalent I can offer of my emotional state recently. Amazing how you can run along and then suddenly life startles you into a faint. Ay carumba. Happy friday...&lt;/div&gt;
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        <title>Remabulous profile: Tanya Madoff</title>
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        <published>2008-08-13T14:24:18-07:00</published>
        <updated>2008-08-19T22:30:12-07:00</updated>
        <summary>Right before BlogHer 08, I spent a lovely evening and day with my friend Tanya, the magical knitter behind Tanya Madoff knits, now also offering the adorable buttons you see above as well as handmade jewelry. As I got ready...</summary>
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&lt;p&gt;Right before &lt;a href="http://blogher.org"&gt;BlogHer&lt;/a&gt; 08, I spent a lovely evening and day with my friend &lt;a href="http://tanyamadoff.com/about.php"&gt;Tanya&lt;/a&gt;, the magical knitter behind &lt;a href="http://tanyamadoff.com/"&gt;Tanya Madoff knits&lt;/a&gt;, now also offering the adorable buttons you see above as well as handmade jewelry. As I got ready to put up an interview on our conversation last month, I was pleased to remember that we were speaking out the same issues I wrote about yesterday, regarding assessing value as an artist. &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Read on for inspiration to move forward with your creative projects in a positive and powerful way...&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;image: &lt;a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/46559377@N00/2677509977/sizes/m/"&gt;caroline donahue&lt;/a&gt; for Remabulous.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="http://remabulous.typepad.com/.shared/image.html?/photos/uncategorized/2008/08/13/tanya_about.jpg" onclick="window.open(this.href, '_blank', 'width=114,height=139,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0'); return false"&gt;&lt;img height="121" width="100" border="0" alt="Tanya_about" title="Tanya_about" src="http://remabulous.typepad.com/remabulous/images/2008/08/13/tanya_about.jpg" style="margin: 0px 5px 5px 0px; float: left;" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;
Tanya is a fast knitter. I have seen her whip out a scarf, and it is a fearsome thing to behold. She knits in the cool continental style that moves along at a quick pace, allows for easy transitions between knitting and purling, and is simply a more efficient method. She has a German mother to thank for this gift. I knit in the English style, being both a rabid anglophile and the granddaughter of an English-style knitter. I never felt inferior before, but as I have watched colorful and cozy scarves slip from Tanya's needles over the past years, I do feel a twinge of regret. &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Knitting has been the hot hobby for the past few years. Something to do with the economy as well as the disturbance of September 11th has brought people back to the joys of knitting and making things by hand. The first ever knitting group I went to was at Tanya's house, when we both lived in the East Bay area of San Francisco. it was such a treat to sit and chat while knitting. I don't remember what I was making at the time, but I do remember &lt;a href="http://tanyamadoff.com/fuzzy.php"&gt;Tanya's scarves&lt;/a&gt;: fuzzy, bright and delightful. &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Tanya is the sort of clever entrepreneur who picks something she does well and goes for it. She makes a cozy scarf and knew enough to make tons of them when people started trying to buy them off her and her friend's necks. She started selling a few scarves on consignment in a local shop and now has expanded to include other shops and her website. At first, she was a bit wary selling the scarves. After all, she was just having fun knitting and hadn't intended to start a business. &amp;quot;It took me a while to realize that, even though people could learn to knit the scarves themselves, my market wasn't the people who were knitting.&amp;quot; Tanya was wise enough to realize that there were people out there who didn't want to knit, but did appreciate the value of a beautiful handmade item- look at those who shop on &lt;a href="http://www.etsy.com"&gt;Etsy&lt;/a&gt;, but have never made a thing themselves. They didn't want to sit and make it themselves, they wanted to pay Tanya and take it home in a pretty shopping bag. &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;This is a crucial point for creative people, as I pointed out yesterday- our skills, time and effort are worth paying for. As many people walk around in a museum and say they could paint a painting, the truth is that they didn't come up with the idea, or put in the time, love and effort to make the work. Tanya has thrived knowing that people are paying for the joy of owning something handmade, not just another machine generated item. I can say for myself that I can feel the difference. I am proud to hold her up as an example of someone who makes good work and has gotten to the point where she sells it with pride, rather than trepidation. This is essential to not for creative professionals: our choice to make and create work is a powerful one. There are so many people out there who appreciate this- celebrate yourself and your work by letting people buy it at a price that is fair for both of you! &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;As for Tanya, she has a new a great product out: &lt;a href="http://tanyamadoff.com/products.php"&gt;her buttons (coming soon to her products page)&lt;/a&gt;. She decided to make her long-term dream of a new button machine come true this year. Now Tanya is hard at work, creating adorable and witty designs to put on buttons she sells in local shops and, soon, on her site. &amp;quot;I wanted to sell something that was affordable to those who couldn't pay for the scarves.&amp;quot; First, this option was jewelry, and now it has expanded to include the buttons as well! I love this solution: having a range of products and options to offer to a range of people. Don't sell yourself short- simply diversify what you sell. Now Tanya can reach more people who have different needs and price ranges. I love these buttons and have been proud to have them pinned on my purse. They make great gifts and are really cute to put on bags or hand-knitted items. &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Many thanks to Tanya for being a great example to us. I must also add that she is the most gracious and magical hostess- while chatting about her work, we enjoyed a spread of treats on beautiful china with matching cups and saucers as well as homemade brownies. Paradise. Especially as I also got to visit with her dog and the knitwear's mascott, Ben.&amp;nbsp; &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Also, here's an inspiring tip from Tanya&lt;/strong&gt; that I took a while ago and am so grateful for: rather than spending tons of money on beautiful picture books for inspiration, take them out of the library. And for inspiration you can refer back to, keep magazine articles that inspire you, sorted by subject in a pretty binder. I do this to keep my magazines from overflowing and love my russel + hazel inspriation book that I add to whenever the magazine pile gets too big.&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;image: care of Tanya Madoff Knits.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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        <title>The value of an artist: how do we place value on something so personal as creative work?</title>
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        <published>2008-08-12T15:06:24-07:00</published>
        <updated>2008-08-13T11:14:51-07:00</updated>
        <summary>One of the biggest challenges I have when working with creative people is to get them to set a real cash value on their products and services that is adequate. People who were formerly cutthroat corporate who would never come...</summary>
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            <name>caroline donahue</name>
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One of the biggest challenges I have when working with creative people is to get them to set a real cash value on their products and services that is adequate. People who were formerly cutthroat corporate who would never come down on a price waver on even recouping costs and time spent. Why is this? </p>

<p>What is it about work that involves our creativity and is more personal and intuitive that makes it less valuable? Why do artists routinely waffle on whether or not they even deserve the title? It seems that culturally we are in a bit of a black hole, where as art education funding is cut, so is our respect for the arts as a legitimate field of work. </p>

<p>Another voice on this topic is Gwen Bell, <a href="http://www.gwenbell.com/2008/08/11/say-yes-to-big-cash-money-yall-what-what/">writing about women versus men</a> on this topic, in a similar vein. </p>

<p>What do we need to do to claim ourselves as both creative AND professional?</p>

<p>image: <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/gauri_lama/2663421966/">loving earth</a> via flickr</p><p>As long as creativity is seen as a gift that flies down from above and lands on the chosen few, we will think that it was inspiration and not perspiration that got the job done. While creativity is something that pulls some people rather than others, how is this a different scenario than someone having a calling to be a dentist and then going into training in order to be one. How is drawing different? Or sculpture or writing? the only difference from a practical standpoint is the fact that artists do not generally get jobs with benefits, long term guarantees like corporate jobs sometimes do.</p>

<p>It seems that what we expect from artists is the ability to thrive in uncertain circumstances without support or structure. Artists must seek out the projects, plan them, execute them, find locations and clients to purchase the art. Why then, do we also expect that by doing so, artists should also earn less money? And why in fact do the artists themselves go along with it?</p>

<p>As long as we believe it is unfair to earn good money and enjoy ourselves while doing it, people will undersell the services they have to offer, especially if they are creative. </p>

<p>So if you are in this category, or plan to be: listen to Gwen Bell, listen to me, listen to yourself. Stop it stop it. Mark yourself up more. You are worth it, and so is art and creativity in general.</p></div>
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        <title>Happy friday: just be glad that Pearl isn't your boss!</title>
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        <published>2008-08-08T10:10:43-07:00</published>
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        <title>Reconstruction: 10 ways to survive post-breakup.</title>
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        <published>2008-08-07T12:14:43-07:00</published>
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        <summary>Over the past few days, I have been mired in trying to understand what happened that caused a relationship that I felt had more promise and hope in it than most that I had previously been in to spiral down...</summary>
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Over the past few days, I have been mired in trying to understand what happened that caused a relationship that I felt had more promise and hope in it than most that I had previously been in to spiral down into a crash-and-burn ending. I have been so lucky to receive comments, thoughts, phone calls, and e-mails from so many wonderful people I am lucky to have in my life. I have gotten to go through the past week with a co-pilot, something I have never been lucky enough to have before. Knowing that there is so much support and opportunity to connect and reach out makes me feel so grateful. &lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;But even with all of that present, it is still painful and sad. Here's how I am trying to make sense of things and move forward:&lt;/p&gt;

&lt;p&gt;image: &lt;a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/face_it/900673849/sizes/m/"&gt;face it&lt;/a&gt;. via flickr.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Top 10 ways to survive a breakup:
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&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;Don't try to get over it too quickly. Just saying &amp;quot;it was all for the best&amp;quot; and doing the stiff upper lip and moving on ensures you won't get clear about what worked and what didn't, and why you wanted to be with the person in the first place. Let yourself grieve and go through it. With that said: &lt;/li&gt;

&lt;li&gt;Don't talk about it all the time with everyone you speak to. The first couple of days you can get away with this, but the most helpful conversations I have had have been about other topics entirely, and have helped me remember that there are, in fact, other things going on in my life that I care about than the breakup.&lt;/li&gt;

&lt;li&gt;Reach out to your mutual friends. People always make friends with people from both partner's friend group when dating. After clearing it with your ex that you hope to stay friends with these people- reach out. Acknowledge that it might be awkward, but sharing how much you have valued these friends and that you hope to still be in contact will be a relief to you, and validate for them how much your value them. It is up to the individual case how to proceed, but it will feel better to reach out. &lt;/li&gt;

&lt;li&gt;Movies. I cannot underestimate the soothing power of the appropriate film. A review of Forgetting Sarah Marshall in the cheap theater here was a perfect example of the healing power of cinema. Anything that can take your mind off the difficulty and will allow for a breather and a few laughs is worth it. DVD series of TV shows are also fantastic as you can immerse yourself in a story other than your own. &lt;/li&gt;

&lt;li&gt;Relaxing activities. Swimming this week as well as some walks on the beach were so pleasant and a way to get out of the cave of my house. Let your friends pull you out of your house. A balance of outings, dinners, tea and coffee dates and movies is best.&lt;/li&gt;

&lt;li&gt;Keep working. Seeing clients and writing the site has kept a sense that there are still things that are normal in life. Going to work at the store even when someone could have taken my shift was so helpful. Don't let this take away your whole life or allow you to feel that everything has been damaged by the ending. Keeping your normal flow going will feel better. &lt;/li&gt;

&lt;li&gt;Sleep. I have never been so tired that I can remember when I wasn't pulling all nighters in school as I have been this week. Sleep more than you think you need to- go to bed earlier or sleep in if your schedule allows for it. Napping and being able to rest has boosted my ability to deal incredibly. &lt;/li&gt;

&lt;li&gt;Food. Depending on which end of the spectrum you swing to when upset (pigging out or losing appetite completely) try to hold a bit more to the middle. If you run for chocolate, try to make it organic and dark. If you eat nothing, like me, when upset, try to at least take a few bites of something that is appealing. Staying healthy is important and necessary to keep everything progressing. &lt;/li&gt;

&lt;li&gt;Be conscious of how you talk about it. I have never had a positive result from talking crap about someone I have broken up with. Being open with friends and having a good &amp;quot;what a bastard&amp;quot; session with a few close friends or family members is expected, but avoid taking out an ad in the paper listing your ex's flaws. This will not reflect highly on you, nor will it make you feel any better. Save the howling and gnashing for therapy, which is advisable at this time. &lt;/li&gt;

&lt;li&gt;Treats. Loss is an appropriate time to- within reason- allow yourself a few indulgences. I never buy dvds- or almost never, and a trip to Virgin where I bought several I had wanted but hadn't allowed myself to get yet was a nice boost- remind yourself that you are worth a treat and enjoy it.&amp;nbsp; &lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Having been through this process a number of times, I know that I will eventually feel better and that life will move forward. The thing that is hard is that it never hurts any less. it never gets easier to deal with an ending. Perhaps that is a good thing, since it means that the ability for all of us to hope for the best and to keep trying to find a connection that works is still there. Otherwise we would grow out of our desire to have a thriving partnership, something I don't want to give up on.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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    <entry>
        <title>Trying to inspire authenticity.</title>
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        <published>2008-08-05T12:16:06-07:00</published>
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        <summary>Since I am Carrie and Danielle's featured profile of the week, and their work is all about inspiring authenticity, I have decided to go for that example this week. I am in a place where my life and my work...</summary>
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            <name>caroline donahue</name>
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<div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p>Since I am <a href="http://carrieanddanielle.com/life-style-map/profile-of-the-week/">Carrie and Danielle's featured profile of the week</a>, and their work is all about inspiring authenticity, I have decided to go for that example this week. I am in a place where my life and my work and my whole world feel like they are being shaken up and down and all over the place. I seem to have lost all the bearings I had even just a week or two ago. </p>

<p>I used to have this idea that we keep thinking we reach points where life is just a straight shot forward along a planned trajectory and that we can count on that. But then it jerks to the side and back and when we turn around and look back, nothing has happened in a straight line. That is how it feels at the moment.</p><p>I thought that meeting my ex was the beginning of a straight line. I thought that seeking me out after many years was indicative of a commitment and a sense of investment, but I was wrong. I was far more invested, and at the end I just feel betrayed. It is hard sitting with this, with a friend in the hospital, who is thankfully getting out today, but still waiting for scary test results. On the one hand, I feel this sense of gratitude that she is ok and that my life is in far less critical condition and that I need to honor that. On the other, I feel simply thrashed trying to keep in all together. </p>

<p>I am grateful that life has sent me so many people who care and who are doing such an amazing job of reaching out and offering support. I could not make it through all of this without you all, one of whom didn't even know me before this past weekend. I know on some level that I will move through this stronger and clearer, and I see how my work and my hopes for my life are keeping me on course. I still feel best when in session with someone. It feels so good to be able to help when I feel so out of control for myself. </p>

<p>I think these periods of time are inevitable and always unexpected. They shake things up and, where I would have a job that created structure if I were like most of the population, I don't have that in place. What I need to decide now is how to create more of that, seeing as my work is such an amazing handhold in times of difficulty. I need to create a ship that holds me safely in times of crisis. Anyone who works for themselves and has been through a time of crisis with their business intact and flourishing is very encouraged to contribute. I would love to know your thoughts and suggestions. </p>

<p>I learn so much from all of you. Thank you for your comments, your calls, your twitters, and your presence. I need it, and it has been the best affirmation of love in my life I have ever seen. </p></div>
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        <title>Onward and Upward: I'm an example of authenticity on Carrie and Danielle!</title>
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        <published>2008-08-04T17:36:49-07:00</published>
        <updated>2008-08-04T17:37:04-07:00</updated>
        <summary>Everyone, please check me out as an example of authenticity on www.carrieanddanielle.com. I am really excited to be featured because I so admire their work, which has helped me focus and refine my vision for both my business and my...</summary>
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<div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p>Everyone, please check me out as an <a href="http://carrieanddanielle.com/life-style-map/profile-of-the-week/">example of authenticity on www.carrieanddanielle.com</a>. I am really excited to be featured because I so admire their work, which has helped me focus and refine my vision for both my business and my life. I had a <a href="http://carrieanddanielle.com/style-statement/">Statement Session</a> with them last year and it has been a huge source of support since. I highly recommend both their philosophy and their work. Check out their <a href="http://astore.amazon.com/remabulous-20/detail/0316067164/105-5470179-6481202">beautiful new book</a> as well as their <a href="http://carrieanddanielle.com/category/daily-qa/">inspiring website</a>. </p></div>
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